Was there someone in your personal life who inspired you to be an advocate for social change?
I had a really beautiful therapist as I was entering into recovery back in 2008 who saw something in me that I had never been able to see in myself. He encouraged me to explore that voice inside and dared me to let it out. I ended up doing that on TV and it was really empowering. I think that led to me exploring personal relationships and professional experiences I would not otherwise have ever thought to look at, particularly in the nonprofit space.
Many youths believe you have to move to a major city like New York City, Washington DC or Los Angeles to become an activist. How do you spur social change within a smaller community?
It's still really hard in small towns! Moving to Garden City, Idaho in 2022 was a really pronounced reminder, and continues to be! I honestly think it’s so important to be out and proud but it’s even more important to be safe and alive. It’s not always safe for LGBTQIA+ people to come out or to be the focal point in a small town. That doesn’t make them any less part of the community. I love that .gay is a vehicle for outness to happen online, even if it’s not safe to be fully out in the community where you live. I hope that changes.
The more of us who are able to stand up and proudly live our lives and our loves, the better. And for anyone who doesn’t feel safe right now, I would just say that you will! Hang on. There’s a great big world out there and you belong here. Your life matters so much. If you do feel safe to come out where you live and you feel like taking on LGBTQIA+ advocacy in a small town, there are tons of resources available through our partner network at CenterLink, which can help get you connected and prepared for any number of community responses and, at the very least, help you not feel alone in the process. You are part of a long legacy of badasses and we are all rooting for you. Get it!
How do you be a real ally and force for positive change remotely, via online and social media?
Shutting down hate is a great first step. Like…we are all in charge of our comments sections on social media. I block people all day long. Big SCRAM! energy up in here. I also think finding LGBTQIA+ organizations like GLAAD and CenterLink to support is key. Follow them online. Like and share their posts. Donate! Commit to learning more and then do it! Watch some documentaries. Read some books. And if you really want to make a splash, register your .gay domain! It’s a fantastic way to shout that you are in support of LGBTQIA+ communities while also donating to vital community organizations.